Make an Appointment: 817-642-7239 | [email protected]

  • Embracing the Beauty of ‘Okay’ Sex: Letting Go of Pressure and Expectations

    Sex is a beautiful and intimate act that can bring immense pleasure and connection to our lives. However, too often people feel as though they have to turn up the heat every time they have sex. We’re told that sex should always be amazing, mind-blowing, and at a level 10. But the truth is, sex isn’t always going to be fireworks and circus acts. Sometimes, it’s more like a toddler’s tumbling class – a little messy, a little awkward, but still enjoyable. And that’s okay.

    It’s important to remember that sex is a natural and normal part of life. It’s not always going to be at a level 10, and that’s completely normal. The pressure to constantly raise the bar can be overwhelming and can actually make the experience less enjoyable. Instead of putting pressure on yourself and your partner, try to approach each sexual experience with curiosity and an open mind. Be in the moment and follow your pleasure. Every sexual experience is unique and should be treated as such.

    If you’re struggling with pressure or unrealistic expectations, it may be helpful to talk with a therapist. A sex therapist can help you and your partner communicate openly and honestly about what you expect sexually, what kind of sex you are in the mood for, and what you want for your sexual experience in that moment. They can also help you work through any underlying issues that may be affecting your sex life.

    At Melanin Sex Therapy, I understand the importance of a healthy and fulfilling sex life. I am an AASECT trained Sex Therapist who specializes in all things sex and sexuality, and I am here to help you navigate the complexities of sex and relationships. Don’t let pressure and unrealistic expectations hold you back from experiencing the pleasure and intimacy that sex can bring. Book your appointment today at and start your journey to a more fulfilling and satisfying sex life.